No apologies..

Don’t get tripped up on people’s opinion of you. Everyone has them… some are bigger then others. I am at a constant loss of why I gravitate to worry about this:(

I like to think I wear many hats. Defender, stylist, friend, mom, wife, daughter, sister and not in that order. I probably wrote defender down because I am truly a defender of the underdog. I have been the person needing defending so I guess I spend a lot of time doing it now. It’s not always the most popular role and it doesn’t mean you excuse their actions. It just means get the plank out of your own eye before getting the splinter out of theirs.

I try hard to not debate on social media because you’re never gonna win. I also try not to debate politics behind my chair because they aren’t coming to me for political advice. Just hair. Lol. Now hear me out… if they ask I will tell them. Most times they are shocked at where I stand. I think none of us are walking in someone else’s shoes. So try and stay in your lane.

I mean I can give advice all day long on hair, kids, parenting, relationships, money , friendships but it doesn’t mean I’m an expert in that area. I am surprised how many think they are though. Lol. I get conflicted a lot.

I love music… again no expert. I remember a guy I dated said “ You could live your life through a country song” I think I have too. I think it has helped me throughout the years. You can play a song and your mind take you to that place.. that moment. I think I’m redundant in my blogs. I write so much of the same thing. Tonight I seem to be jumping all over the place. From defender to music. I can’t seem to zone in. I guess because we are creatures of habit. We tend to do the same things over and over again. Whether they are right or wrong, good or bad. We repeat. Some people learn. Some it’s their nature. I was doing my friends hair this week and I was sharing a story with her and how i wrote this friend a letter.. how I was hesitant to give it to them and when I finally did it was exactly spot on what they needed to hear. She then said “Did you give them a gift too?” I said what.. she said “It’s your thing. You give gifts. To EVERYONE”… I kind of stopped and realized this has been happening all my life. When I was little I did it. I do it now. Why do I do it?

For example.. I bought the kids I used to babysit gifts with money I made. Then every single guy I’ve ever dated or was friends with I bought gifts. My friends.. they’ll tell you. I love to do it. Family too. I’m also the worst gift receiver alive. I think it’s some deficiency I was born with. I admit I love a good reaction. I also like people to know they matter. I’m not bragging so please don’t read this that way. Most often it’s looked at very oddly. It’s criticized by others. It something that’s a lot of times interpreted wrong. Geez I think I even wrote a blog about it. Lol. (See repeat pattern)

So maybe it’s just my lot in life. To be a weird creepy lady who gives gifts. I never think it’s wasted. My intent anyways. Kind of like words or compliments. Those are never wasted. Even if you regret them or decide they should have gone else where.. check the intent. Encourage people. Build up other businesses. Send people good words. Hell.. send a gift too if you want. They may never understand but you will feel good. Buy a strangers coffee. Tell the lady in front of you in line she has pretty eyes or hair. Be “that person”..

We are in such a stinky time in our world that we need to find some kind of happy. See someone getting blasted on social media. Send them a inbox. Tell them you’re thinking about them. See someone in town going through a hard time ? Call them, send a card or maybe a gift card if you can afford it. The underdog may be you one day and I promise you.. you’ll want a tiny bit of grace. Even if you don’t deserve it. None of us do really…

And for the record.. if I’ve ever bought you a random gift, sent a weird message or promoted your business it’s because I loved you big!! Or I thought you were the stuff. I believed in the Kool-Aid you were serving. Or maybe you needed to be reminded you’re remarkable.. yep my favorite word. lol. Have a good one guys and keep being you. No apologies needed 😉