To Plan or Not To Plan…

I haven’t had a lot to talk of here lately. Seems everywhere I look there is something so sad. I try hard not to get so enveloped in it that I lose my joy but the last two weeks have been hard. I was eating dinner tonight and I starting thinking about this topic. (Imagine that) I was thinking do you have more happiness in the moments you plan or the ones you never expected.

I know who cares… but I really have been thinking about this. I mean every Monday we eat at my neighbors house. It’s a planned thing. Six o’clock sharp. I can tell you it’s probably the only thing I have planned other than my kids extra curricular activities and I look so forward to it. Now let me say this. I am NO planner. I’m okay with this after 45 years. I don’t plan unless I go on vacations or I’m at work, which I am on a schedule. I think back to the days when I started working and my family and Donny can attest, I hated work. I’d do anything to not go. I’d go home and do nothing and to make matters worse I was in such a bad relationship and just cared nothing of it. Now I feel like I really am better when I’m at work then on my days off. I just got a dog( insert laughter) and I could slip back into days of nothingness if I allowed myself so I try hard not to just go there. Lol…

I am also on a meal prep. Eight weeks I believe. It’s no walk in the park but it’s a plan and for the most part I’m committed to it.( Except weekends) I just think that planning steals so much spontaneous moments. Anytime I’ve ever just been spontaneous it’s always resulted in a great story. Maybe not a great memory but a great story. I mean I’ve went on a many of road trips and left out with nothing but a map and a bag. True story. I love nothing more then when I spend days with my kids, my friends or family even and we just hit the road. I will say I do plan outfits for events, I’ll plan music for the rides, and even bring snacks for just a 2 hour drive but it’s so much fun that way. Then I think of when I planned something the other day. Like for months I looked forward to it. MONTHS…then I get there and it was nothing like I had thought. Good story. No. Good memory..no.. but I did have laughter on the way there…yes!! So I guess there’s that. Nothing is ever as great as you plan it. That’s one thing I teach my girls. Go in expecting to make memories but don’t project what’s going to take place. Just go with the flow. Both my girls are A students and extremely organized when it comes to school. Catie works hard and rolls with the moment and Callie she is all her daddy. She likes to know what’s coming and plan in accordance. Both girls love to be spontaneous but Catie is way more a free spirit. Oh and no it’s not an age thing either. It’s just the way they are wired.

I laugh because I try to act so “spontaneous” but I have every outfit already bought for the next three weddings I’m attending. I mean down to the shoes. I just live so much for the big events that I sometimes forget how great the little ones are. Like the drive thru dinners, or snuggles at bedtime. The ones I didn’t look forward to but maybe I need to more often. So tell me is it better to plan or just roll. I guess I’ll just ride the middle lane never knowing really what it’s like to be either way 100%. That’s okay. Sometimes the grey area is the most beautiful place to live. So again sorry to take up your feed with such random topics but here lately random is needed. Just a silly read to take your mind off the bigger things. Oh and pray for those who are walking through hard moments. I know two families who are in unimaginable circumstances and I feel certain they need prayer way more then I needed you to read my silly thoughts. If you read this far just know even in your planned moments you can still be spontaneous. Be thankful you have them. Love your kids too. That’s all 🙂